It’s a Boy! Now What?
“It’s a boy!” If you’ve been dreaming of pink baby booties for the past nine months, these words can result in a twinge of disappointment. You may be mourning the loss of Barbie dolls, training bras, prom dresses, or late-night girl talk sessions, but it’s important to remember that having a son does come with some distinct advantages. You have plenty of opportunities to brush up on your housecleaning skills, you won’t be tempted to blow your entire paycheck on tiny pink hair bows, and you won’t have to share your clothes with your teenage daughter.
Don’t worry about gender stereotypes.
You won’t turn your son into a sissy if you encourage him to have a tea party with his female cousins or ask him to help you bake a birthday cake. Boys can do more than play sports. In fact, exposing your son to a wide range of activities will help him grow up to be more accepting of others.
Get in touch with your inner He-Man.
If you’re a woman who loves makeup, high heels, romance novels, and sappy movies, it can be challenging to relate to your son’s passion for cars, video games, or obnoxious rock music. But, sometimes it’s good to break out of your comfort zone. Take your pre-teen boy shopping for a video game that the two of you can play together. Ask your teenager to show you how to change the oil in your car. Resist the urge to scream when your son’s favorite iTunes mix makes feel like your head is going to explode.
Researchers have proven that young boys aren’t as skilled at expressing their emotions as young girls. Provide your son with opportunities to talk about his feelings, but don’t push for detailed answers that he’s not willing to give. If you keep the lines of communication open, he’ll come to you when he’s ready.
Seek out other moms of boys.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help! Other moms of boys can provide you with an opportunity to learn parenting tips from other women who are in your shoes. They’ll offer advice on everything from how to remove the grass stains from your son’s jeans to how to approach discussions on sex and dating.
Talk to the other men in your life.
Need a crash course in understanding the male brain? Ask your husband, father, or a close male friend for advice. As women, we tend to feel like we have to have all the answers. But, parenting a boy requires some flexibility. Don’t be afraid to ask for input from the other men in your life.